How to Know He is Not the One

How to Know He is Not the One

March 7, 2021 0 By Lexie Hernandez

Are you feeling that you are codependent because of your relationship, and you feel like you cannot live without them? There are some sure-fire signs that you are not meant to be with this person and that it is time to move on.

Look for red flags in your relationship and learn that not all relationships are the same. Learn to recognize that you will never be able to change someone and make them be who you want them to be.

Being codependent on someone can cause you to have depression and stress and can lead you down a bad road in life.

Signs He is Not the One

The first sign is that your partner makes everything about themselves. Things should be about you as a couple and not just one of you in the relationship.

If he is not able to attach to you with his emotions and he has no compassion for others, this can be a sign that you need to move on.

The behaviors that he shows will cause you to see that he only wants his own desires meant and he is not about making sure you are safe and secure.

Being His Mom

Do you want to be with someone that thinks you are their mom? The answer to this is no. Chances are if this is happening that he has issues from his past that he has not resolved.

These issues can come when there are problems and if you are in a relationship with a grown man and he acts like a small child, you need to move on. There will always be problems in this relationship, and you have to make the decision to walk away.


If you are with someone that is violent towards you or animals, this can show that he has anger issues that he has not resolved. These kinds of behaviors can lead to violence and abuse and you need to get out of this relationship right away.

Do not ignore these behaviors and do not take the blame as to why he is acting that way. Even if he blames you, do not excuse it and do not look away.

If you find that you are always having to walk on eggshells when you are around him, this is a bad sign, and you need to set boundaries right away.

Talk to a professional and make him get counseling. If it keeps happening, get out.

Fighting and Blaming

He might want to always fight with you and cause you to be angry about things. Maybe he has behavior that causes you to be upset but he blames you such as his drinking habits.

If this is happening, you need to get out of this relationship. He needs to seek help and change before you consider staying in this relationship.

When he tells you that he does behavior because of you, this is a sure sign that he is not going to change, and you need to move on.

Unavailable to You

Feeling like you are on a rollercoaster with someone you love is not fun. When you find that he is behaving like he likes you one minute and then disappears the next, this can be a sign you are in a bad relationship.

When he tells you that he doesn’t have time for you or you feel that you are being unrealistic to want to spend time with you, this situation means that you need to get out of the relationship.

Calling You Names

When you get comfortable in your relationship and when you are together longer, there should be more love and affection with each other.

If he starts calling you names or says things that are rude towards you, he has no respect for you, and you should not settle for this.

Threatening You

Does he threaten you in order to control you? Maybe he threatens to leave you or to move away.

When his goal is to make you do what he wants you to do, you need to not allow him to treat you that way or to satisfy him with what he wants.

You should never change who you are in order to make someone happy or to make someone love you. If you are being the best you can be and you are happy with who you are, find someone else that is too.

Changing Yourself

Men that are not meant to be with you will want you to be the one that changes but they should be the ones that change. Things have to begin to change if you are in a bad relationship or you will never be happy.

Look at things differently and if you are with someone that refuses to follow boundaries and refuses to have a healthy relationship, get out. Allow yourself to heal and go down a different journey.

You are responsible for your own happiness and you are not responsible for making everyone else happy. When you are in this situation, this is being codependent, and no one needs that kind of life.

Learn to change who you choose to be with and if they are not making you happy, get out and find happiness. You can do this!