Moving on when still in love with your ex

At times when a relationship ends, you both feel like calling it quits was the best thing to do.

However, this isn’t the case especially for someone who didn’t want things to end and still got feelings for the ex. They might find hard to move on.  What they want is for their ex to change their minds and come back.

We usually speak to several people who are in this situation.

There are a few things that might help you gain perspective and with time begin to agree with what transpired even though there’s no single, simple solution:

Feeling stuck

Getting over a relationship indicates the end of a cycle known as the ‘loss cycle’.  The result of this cycle is acceptance, understanding and acknowledging the truth of a situation despite how painful it can be. Nevertheless, this is not easy to accept emotionally.

You are likely to be aware that your partner doesn’t need you anymore. They might have even mentioned this to you, but somehow you just don’t feel like things are over.

You might be questioning yourself, what you did wrong for them to leave you, if you did something different then they would have still been there. Or maybe you just want to see them and understand why they don’t want to be with you anymore.

You may also wonder whether they are upset and how they are dealing with the situation. Whether they have forgotten about you. Social media can reinforce these thoughts, which can indicate that someone is having a great time and doesn’t care even this is all a lie.

Acknowledging what happened

In these circumstances, a lot of attention is paid around helping individuals to have a better understanding of what happened.

This process can be difficult at times. But in the end, you’ll have to understand that it takes two people to be in a relationship. And if one of those individuals doesn’t want to be in the relationship, there’s no relationship.

There are certain situations where having an amicable discussion with your ex about the end of your relationship can work. It also means you have to put yourself in a potentially painful position.

It is important to get the views and opinions of outsiders before doing anything. Talk to friends and family. Those people you honestly believe in and know they can help you. There’s also no harm when it comes to seeking the help of a professional counselor, as long as you’ll benefit.

Understanding the broader view

This is one of the best ways one can resolve his or her hurtful feelings. Considering both the good and bad side of the relationship.

There are times you might be one-sided and only choose to think about the things you miss. No relationship is perfect. Discovering that will help you understand why the relationship ended.

Self-love

This is easier said than done. Loving someone who doesn’t want reciprocate the love is painful. At times it’s not easy to cope with that truth.

If you are in a difficult situation, it is essential to focus on yourself and ensure you get all the support you require. You may have to think about what you need to do to feel better. At times, a relationship ends to allow you to do things that you never did before like seeing those people you haven’t seen in a while.