Being in a Fake Relationship

In today’s world, dating someone can mean a large variety of things.  It can mean you are just going out as friends or that you are going out for sex.  This could be a long-term relationship or something serious.  There are different types of relationships and they can be deep, or they can be superficial.

A superficial relationship can be shallow or fake, meaning that it is not a deep connection with someone.  This type of relationship can mean that you are just having fun and you aren’t being serious in your dating.  When you are in a deep relationship, you share your deepest secrets, fears and goals.  You accept each other for who you are and when there is a problem, you learn to solve it.  You not only have communication, but you have intimacy in other ways too.

If you are in a relationship for sex only, you will more than likely not talk about the future and you will know that you are in a shallow or a fake relationship.

Arguing

Being in a relationship means that you will probably have some type of fight or issue that comes along.  You will understand each other, but your fights will make you have a bond and will strengthen your relationship.

When you fight, you are challenging each other and learning to understand each other.  Of course, you shouldn’t be fighting constantly, and you need to be bound with that person.  When you are bonding though, chances are you will have some type of fights along the way.

Most deep relationships have fights and this allows them to understand each other at a different level.  Conflict can come that will cause you to argue or to get mad at some things.  This can impact your relationship.  If you see that you are not arguing about anything ever, chances are your relationship is fake or shallow.

Phone

If you are sitting at a restaurant or going to the park and you and your partner cannot stay off the phone, chances are this relationship is shallow.  When a person is on their phone, they are not being active in the relationship, barely make eye contact and are basically not even present.

This doesn’t mean that you won’t get on your phone to check on your family or to post a picture, but when you are with someone that you like, you need to be working to get to know more about them.  If you are always on your phone, you will never know who they really are.

Next time you are out on a date, pay attention to see if your relationship is always interrupted by the phone or if there are some deep conversations happening.

Question

Do you really know the person that you are dating?  What are their favorite shows to watch and where is their favorite place to eat?  Do you know what they want in life and what is important to them?  Unless you have been dating them for a short period of time, you should be able to answer all of those questions.  If you can’t, this is not a good sign of a deep relationship.

The best way to get closer to someone is to ask them questions.  If you don’t know much about the person you are interested in, figure out why.  Is it because you don’t want to get deeper with them or do, they not want to?  Do you have a shallow relationship?

Conclusion

If you have concluded that your relationship is superficial or shallow, you need to know what to do next.  You need to figure out if you are happy about how the relationship is going.  There is nothing wrong with a superficial relationship as long as everyone in the relationship is getting their needs met.

Serious relationships have a place and so do shallow relationships.  If you know you are moving and only going to be in the relationship for a short period of time, there is no reason to try to have a long-distance relationship.

A shallow relationship can work out if you are more focused on your life or your career and you want to wait for something serious later.

If you feel that you are missing out on something and that your current relationship is not satisfying, you need to talk this over with your partner.  Keep communication open, learn new things about each other, disagree on things and show more interest.  You can only turn this relationship into something meaningful if both people are wanting more.  Figure out what you want and go for it.